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How to stop being average - blog post

Why are so many people content to just be average? Just muddling through life and accepting that this is it!

It’s time to break out of your box!

These days we all live in a permanent box. It may be a different box depending on the time of day, but it’s a box all the same.

We commute to work in a box (train or car), we sit for 8 hours inside a box (open-plan office, sole office, or cubicle), we drive home in the same box, then we sit in front of our box TV (although if we’re really doing well in life it’s actually more of a flat rectangle), we throw a box dinner in the microwave and then get into our box bed for sleep.

And so the cycle continues day after day, week after week.

Some may try to vary the routine or change their state of mind by drinking an alcoholic beverage or eating tons of sugar, but this will never give them the feeling of well-being that good health and fitness can provide.

There is just no way that an overweight body which is oxygen-deprived can be happy.

No wonder we live in a world of fat, unfit, exhausted and depressed people.

WE HAVE TO BREAK OUT OF OUR BOXES!

But how can you do that?

Well regular exercise and a healthy diet will go a long way to helping you become trim, fit, energised and happier, but here are five other things that you can do to stop yourself being average:

Be you

Most people spend their lives trying to fit into society’s mould of what they should be, how they should act and how they live their lives.

But do these people end up happy? No. Because at the end of the day, they can feel stuck and unhappy as they pretend to be someone they aren’t because they think that’s what the world wants them to be.

Something society has forgotten is that we are all unique. We all have our different talents, and flaws, we cannot all be pigeon-holed into a box depending on where society thinks we belong.

Being happy with yourself is half the battle to being extraordinary instead of just average.

It’s your choice, and your choice alone, but you have the power to change yourself, whether that’s your job, your relationship or even your body.

You just need to take that first step, but be careful it could be quite a tumble.

So stop worrying about what other people might think, be you and put on that superhero cape and see where it takes you.

Don’t waste time

Hands up if you’ve perfected the art of procrastination?

It’s so easy, isn’t it, to put off doing something until you really have to do it?

However, it could lead to added stress especially at work, or you could end up never doing the one thing you always wanted to do.

Time is not infinite. We only have a finite amount of time on this earth and none of us knows how long that will be. We hope that we’re granted a good innings, but sometimes that just isn’t meant to be.

So why do we waste our time doing things that don’t mean anything or make a difference to our lives? That’s simply a waste of life.

When it comes to work, there’s a culture to be at the office from dawn until dusk. But there’s scientific evidence that doing that doesn’t actually make you more productive, so what’s the point? If you can get the job done in the allotted office hours, why wouldn’t you? That would then leave you time for you.

So at work, try being engaged in what you’re doing. Eliminate all distractions, find somewhere quiet (even if that means tuning out with headphones) and just do the work.

In both your work and personal life be mindful of what it is you’re giving the most time to and like a good diet cut out what doesn’t benefit you and increase the amount of what does.

Surround yourself with inspiring, positive people

Being average is contagious.

Think about it, if you’re in a room with five people who don’t have much ‘get up and go’, who’s going to be the sixth person with no ‘get up and go’? Yes, you guessed it, you.

If you’re in a room with five people who are energised and excited about doing and being their best, who’s going to be the sixth person?

So stop spending time with social vampires, the people who suck all the life out of you, people who make you feel worthless and people who are just downright negative and boring, and start spending time with people who represent the kind of person that you want to be, people who are smarter than you that you can learn from.

They will inspire you to believe that anything you want is possible. Soak up their knowledge, practise their methods and tactics so you can become the best version of you.

And if that means paying for courses to improve your career prospects, or fitness levels then do it.

Do one thing that scares you every day

Life is about growth; physically, mentally and emotionally, and playing safe, sticking to what you know is the quickest way to ‘average town’.

So, why not try stepping outside of your comfort zone each day?

Something scary doesn’t necessarily mean big scary like jumping out of a plane, it can be as simple as saying yes more often to things, reading a few chapters of a book each day, voluntary work, networking, or even just trying out a new recipe.

But by saying yes and doing something different can open up a whole new world of opportunities.

Work on your confidence

As the years go by, life can take its toll on your confidence.

Constant criticism that you’re never good enough can send you straight to the land of self-pity. And as we age, especially men when we reach 40 we suddenly seem to become invisible, useless and a burden.

So instead of just accepting that, why not put yourself out there, test yourself and see where the wind takes you.

By having the confidence to say: “I can and I will,” can help you to achieve more than simply submitting to your fate, sitting in a corner and becoming a figure of fun.

A final question

In the book ‘The Chimp Paradox’ by Dr Steve Peters, the following question is posed: “Imagine that you are 100-years old and on your death bed with one minute left to live. Your great-great-grandchild asks: “Before you die, tell me what I should do with my life?””

You have one minute to answer that question right now and pop it in the comments below.

There is no right or wrong answer to the question.

The book continues, saying: “Whatever your advice was to your imaginary great-great-grandchild is really the advice to yourself. If you are not living by this advice, which is the essence of your existence, you are living a lie. Don’t live a lie; it will unsettle you more than anything else.”

If you want to be more than average, regain your confidence, focus and the inner strength you never thought you had, then check out our training packages and sign up.

Post Author: Gordon McAdam

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